64. Seeking True Peace? Anchor Your Life in Christ and experience His Healing, with Christian Life Coach Olivia Hudson

Welcome back to Curious for Christ! As we step into the holiday season, I’ll be releasing episodes weekly on Fridays to help you connect more deeply with loved ones—and God.

The holidays can bring both joy and challenges. In today’s episode, we’ll explore how past wounds shape us and how Christ offers healing and transformation, beginning with His ultimate gift: salvation.

Highlights:
• How God provides a safe space to face pain and break cycles of hurt.
• Scripture reflections: Matthew 11:28–30 and 3 John 1:2.
• An inspiring excerpt from my conversation with life coach Olivia Hudson on healing through Christ. To hear the full interview, check out my very first episode, Episode #1!

Reflection:
Are there relationships or wounds you need to bring to God this season? True peace and transformation start with Him.

Connect with Me:
Stop relying on yourself to figure it all out- let’s talk! I am here for you. Book a free Discovery Call and take your next step toward a closer relationship with God.


Thanks for joining me! See you next Friday. Remember: Christ came to heal, restore, and save. Let Him transform your life this season.

Blessings,
Alexandra

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Welcome back to curious for Christ. As we step into this holiday season, I've decided to release episodes weekly on Fridays so we can spend more time with our families. And most importantly, with God. The holidays can bring so much joy, but let's be honest. They can also stir up some challenges. Whether it's reconnecting with family feeling the absence of a loved one. Or facing and resolved wounds. This season has a way of bringing up what's beneath the surface and today. I thought to invite you to reflect on healing and finding true transformation in Christ. Welcome to curious for Christ. Do you ever find yourself lying awake at night? Wondering about God's plan for your life. Maybe you wake up with big dreams, but feel unsure where to start or what your next step should be. If you're curious about exploring your faith and finding purpose, then you've come to the right place. Hi, I'm Monica, Sandra. I too felt lost unsure of the direction my life was taking. I yearned to understand my purpose and have someone guide me. But I kept telling myself I was too busy, the timing wasn't right. And my lack of clarity prevented me from being consistent until I found Christ. He brought peace into my life and we field the way to find purpose by anchoring myself. In him. In this podcast, we'll journey together, exploring the Bible to gain a deeper understanding of him. and cultivate your own personal relationship with Christ. So open up your Bible, put in those ear buds and listen up because God is speaking to you. He is making everything new and you don't want to miss it. Let's get started. So let's start with this truth. Our bodies carry our past wounds and they often shape the way we think speak and interact with others. Even today. Many of the coping mechanisms we rely on were learned from our parents or caregivers. Which they learned themselves from their parents or caregivers and so on. And whether they were good or bad. And the reality is. Without being rooted in Christ, we often pass on incomplete solutions to others sometimes without even realizing it. This is how cycles of hurt and misunderstanding continue. But here's the good news. God offers us a safe space to revisit these wounds. To find healing and to experience a transformed life. That said transformation is not, God's only purpose for us. He came to meet. Our deepest need. And guess what it is. Our salvation. Our soul being saved and secure in him is the foundation for everything else. Healing is important. But ultimately God's plan is to save us for eternity and draw us into a relationship with him. And that. Brings healing. Let me share a passage for Matthew 11 verses 28 through 30, where Jesus says. Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest, take my yoke upon you and learn from me for, I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. This scripture. Reminds us that Jesus invites us to come to him with our burdens, our past pain. Are strained relationships. And even the things we try to hide. Or our restlessness, the lack of peace that we have. He promises, rest and healing. When we bring these things to him. Another verse that speaks to this is third John one, verse two, which says dear friend. I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well. This reminds us that. God cares about our entire being our health. Our peace of mind. And most of all, our soul. When our soul is well in him, we have the foundation for everything else, including the process of healing and transformation. Early here. This here, I had the privilege of speaking with. Life coach and author Olivia Hudson. She shared her journey about healing from deep wounds and wrote this book called caring for your inner child that I got the honor to translate to French. And Olivia story is such a powerful example of how Christ can create a safe environment for us to face our pain and begin the process of transformation. So let's listen to an excerpt from our conversation from last year and then we'll continue shortly after. Hmm. My dad was just, abusive towards my mom. Abusive towards my siblings. We did not have the help like in the U. S. There was no child protective services, no foster care, none of that. So we went through things and experienced things that if we had been in the United States. We would have been removed from the care of our parents and now doubt in my mind. And so the way it affected me, can you repeat the question? Yes. How our past trauma affects, how do they show up in our present life and keep us from living with a fulfilled, peaceful heart? So the way it affected me was it prevented me from really appreciating the current things in my life. It was difficult to appreciate my husband because I will compare him to my dad. Not because my husband was doing anything close to the things that I saw growing up. The opposite, he was kind, gentle, loving, but me not dealing with my own personal trauma. I was doing a lot of projecting. So I was just waited. So my theme in my head was one day he will one day he will do this one day he will do that. And so that affected me completely given myself in my marriage, because I was afraid really have, if I do that, what happens if he all of a sudden, turns And because the thing that or the man that I don't want to be married to it was a constant threat. Yes, exactly. That's a perfect way of putting it. I mean, he didn't even know he was a constant threat, but I felt like he was a constant threat, even though there was. Nothing he was doing that was saying he was a threat to me. And so how did your family adjust to your healing process? What do you do with all these emotions? How did your family, your children, your husband adjust to your healing that took 10 years, you say? Well, my, my family in itself, my family, like my mom, my siblings, I don't think it really there was an adjustment for them because I wasn't constantly calling my mom and be like, Oh, you did this, you did this. I think sometimes. I do think as we heal, we have to be careful in how we go back to people and then kind of dump on them. Well, you did this, you did this, or you did that. And how to communicate some of the things we experience in a way that's not shaming. And so I don't really think it affected them in any way, except with my mom, I will share with her some of. The things that I was becoming aware of, and it allowed her to see little by little how it affected us growing up with a dad and in an abusive home. With my family, my husband was super supportive. I was crying a lot. There's a lot of crying. Obviously today, there's so many more ways to heal in that, those traumas and scars in your life. But at that time for me, it was strictly. therapy. There's no coaching, no grief coach, no trauma coach. I was just going to therapy and it was a lot of crying and so he had to, not that he had to, he chose to adjust to my process. He knew that I would need space. He gave me the space that I needed to work through things. He also was open to hearing how he was being a threat without actually trying to do that, right? How he was triggering me in ways that he had no idea, uh, he was doing that. And again, simply by being married to a man was triggering. I mean, it was just that, that simple, right? And so for him, he was super, I mean, when I think about this process and I think about the support of my husband, I'm completely blown away because here he is hearing the things that I experienced And knowing how these things could possibly affect our marriage, and yet providing empathy and compassion for me in the process. Um, to me that was priceless, and it's still to this day, as far as with my children. I believe what was helpful or how it affected them. I don't know if they will be able to say that, you know, um, think you'll have to interview them to know that. But from my perspective, how it helped me in my parenting was understanding that each one of them have a little kid in them. therapy process really did not come into play in my parenting until my children got older. Then I was able to be empathetic to perhaps the things that I caused in them or the ways that I parented them that probably led to things that they have to continuously work on in their life currently themselves. So I think going through this process in raising my children. It led me to be more humble as a parent, to know that I'm not a perfect parent, and that just loving them is the best thing I can do, and apologizing when I make mistakes. That is the, that is the best I can do, and I think this process, Help me in that and parent my children. I remember at some point in the book, you mentioned that there was a very important session where, the therapist would just ask you, what would the little girl within, tell you? How is your relationship with your little girl right now? how do you connect with her? Do you connect like on a daily basis? In the, in the book I do talk about that time of that therapy session that was really a turning point for me. And it was actually the therapist asked me what will I say to this little girl inside of me. And my reply was. We made it, right? And, um, and I think now as I process what is happening in my relationship with the little girl in me, that we went through a time where almost like I had to do some reparenting. To the little girl in me, care for her, comfort her, sit with her, all of that was part of that healing process. Like we made it, we are okay, sharing for her as she worked through the pain, um, that she had left. Now this relationship has changed, where before it was. Me giving her validation, me helping her to be strong, right? Now I feel like we at this point where it's like she's become a teenager. That's kind of what I think about. She's become a teenager with opinion, with dreams, with desires, and I'm having to now hear what she's trying to tell me. Give her confidence. Give her validation. Yes, you can do that. Um, that may not be a good idea. Mainly right now is Anastasia's allowing her to dream, allowing her to blossom and helping her to go, honey, it's okay. You don't have to play it shy. You can be all you were created to be, which, um, I mean, even as I say it to you, it makes me emotional, right? Because isn't that what we want to hear sometimes? You are okay. To be all you were created to be a little scary. So I think right now my relationship with her is she is speaking to me. And I am having to sit and be okay so that she lives a life where she looks back and don't go, well, I regret that I didn't do this. Or regret that I didn't do that. So allowing her to make mistakes. Our relationship right now, maybe a little rocky, um, but we are figuring it out so good. Well, it's very healthy. It seems healthy, right? Because everything was perfect. Or silence. And that's when you see that some things off that you're not communicating, you're not reaching out, you're not opening that. Window that door for her to speak up. Isn't Olivia story, such a beautiful reminder of how Christ brings healing. I love how she shared that. As she grew in her healing journey, she began to see her children with more compassion and love. And even her husband who had been such a trigger for her. Became a source of support and she was able to see that. And, although it wasn't in the expert, but both her and her husband are Christians. And because he had his own relationship with God. He was able to have the patience and the trust from God to walk alongside her, through her healing process. It's such a beautiful example of how through marriage. God can provide a safe and nurturing environment. And that's his original intent for relationships actually. And one thing that stood out to me also was when Olivia said she told her younger self, we made it that moment of connecting with her inner child. Comforting cheering her on and helping her feel safe, shows how healing involved revisiting the past. But not staying stuck there. So that's it for today. Um, but I want to invite you to reflect on your life for a moment. I'm not a therapist, but I have experienced God's healing hand in my own life. And. I truly believe it's possible for you to. And yes, it took a lot of effort and yes, I did go to see therapists, but I truly believe that it was my relationship with Christ. That was a foundation that allowed me. To get that healing. So are they a wounds or relationships you need to bring before God the season? Maybe it's a strange relationship with a family member or something from your past that you've yet to fully face, or perhaps you don't feel peace right now and you're not sure where to start. I believe Christ is the answer, his love and guidance. I would brought me home even after seeking help through many books. Like I said, and therapists, his healing alone has made all the difference. And I know he can do the same for you. If you're feeling stuck or unsure how to move forward. Consider reaching out for help. Not everyone will be the right person for you. But as a coach, I would love to walk alongside you. As you strengthen your relationship with God and find a foundation you have been missing. Visit bit dot L Y four slash curious for Christ discovery to book a free call. Let's talk about where you are in your faith and how I can support you. And as we wrap up. I want to remind you of the hope we have in Christ. He came to heal, restore and save you. The season isn't just about celebrating. It's also about recognizing our need for a savior and letting him. Transform every part of our lives. So take a moment this week, pray, reflect, reach out even to someone you trust. Even if it's me. Healing as possible, and Christ is ready to walk with you every step of the way. Thank you for joining me today on curious for Christ. Let's close in prayer. Father. I thank you so much for being a God who heals, restores and saves you care deeply about every aspect of our lives. And the depth of your work. Is incredible. I pray for each listener today that you would meet them in their pain, in their restlessness. And guide them toward healing. Fill them with your peace. Most of all, we mind us of the salvation and hope we have in you, which is truly our greatest need. We love you. We trust in you. And in your work. There is no one like you. In Jesus' name? I pray. Amen. I will talk to you next Friday. Bye friend. Hi, I hope you enjoyed today's episode. If so, would you like to take 30 seconds and share it with a friend who may also struggle with knowing God and His purpose for their life. Also, leave a review on applepodcast. com. Podcast, and let me know what topics you'd like to hear about in the future. Your voice matters. I'll meet you back next Friday for another episode.